One of these phenomena is honeymoon activities. Honeymoon is a custom made by newly married couples. They go together, stay somewhere, relax, and are away from distractions, either from family, relatives or closest friends so that bonds between husband and wife are built.
There is no specific proposition that allows or prohibits honeymoon for newly married Muslims so that the original law is permissible. The law is permissible if it does not contain wickedness, as the destination is not an infidel state or a state filled with wickedness. Honeymoon can be considered haram, sunnah, and makruh depending on how the person does it, the destination, and other things.
Honeymoon naming
Sheikh Uthaymeen Rahimahullah in the book Syarhul Mumti said,
“There are benefits that may be taken from the words of the prophet,
Until you taste his sweetness and he tastes yours
"Until you taste a little of his honey and he tastes a little of your honey (that is, having sex with husband and wife" (HR. Muslim no. 1433).
Some people say this hadith is the reason for the mention of the honeymoon. Is this case justified?”
Sheikh Utsaimin Rahimaullah continued, "Yes, this can be justified. However, the sweetness of this honey is not only a month if our relationship with our wife is lasting and smooth. Therefore, the sweetness of this honey (husband and wife relationship) will last forever and not just a month.”
We can conclude that limiting the time to be intimate with the wife, be it a month, a week or a few days is not good. In essence, we expect a lasting and lasting relationship throughout our lifetime when we get married.
Can a honeymoon to an infidel country?
Sheikh Abdul Aziz bin Baz Rahimahullah was once asked, “Many people are tempted in the form of traveling abroad of Islam who do not care about sin. Their goal is a honeymoon. I request that the sheikh kindly give advice to fellow Muslims and those in authority so that they can find out about this problem. ”
Sheikh Abdul Aziz bin Baz Rahimahullah replied, "Praise be to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah, his family, companions and those who are guided by him. There is no doubt that traveling to heathen lands is a great danger, not only at weddings or so-called honeymoons, but at other times as well. A believer must fear Allah the Exalted and beware of anything that harms him. For a Muslim, it is dangerous for his religion, morals, and the religion of his wife when traveling to the land of the polytheists. This is because the country celebrates freedom and does not deny or care about evil.
It is obligatory for all our youth and all our brothers and sisters to leave this kind of journey. Ignore the thought of staying in their country at the time of the wedding or for any other reason. May Allah Ta'ala prevent them from the evil impulse of Satan.
Traveling to countries where there is disbelief, misguidance, freedom and vice is very dangerous for Muslim men and women. How many righteous people travel and come back corrupted. How many people who were originally Muslims then returned from their journey as infidels. It was clear that the dangers of this journey were enormous. The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said,
Donna Bِrِi Mِnْ Kُlِّ Mُsْlِm Yٍqِimeُ Bََnَ Dأَzْhُrِ الْمُشْرِكِينَ
"I depart from every Muslim who lives among the polytheists" (Narrated by Abu Daud (7 /303- 'Aunul Ma'bud ), At-Tirmidzy (4 /132), authenticated by Al-Albani in Irwa' (5/30). He mentioned various ways and syawahid hadith).
Rasulullah Shallallahu 'alaihi wasallam also said,
God will not accept a polytheist who commits polytheism after he embraces Islam until he separates from the polytheists for the Muslims.
"Allah will not accept the deeds of the polytheists who have converted to Islam until he separates himself from the polytheists and joins the Muslims" (Narrated by An-Nasa'i (5/82) and Ibn Majah (2536). Sheikh Al-Albani said, "This hadith has a hasan chain and was authenticated by the Judge (4/600) and approved by Adz-Dzahabi ( Ash-Shahihhah no. 369))".
Sheikh Sholeh Fauzan in the book Al-Mulakhas Al-Fikhi (2/581) states, "What is famousnowadays among the rich young people and the rich are traveling in early marriage to foreign heathen countries to spend a honeymoon. Indeed, it is a month of poison because it is one of the months that is considered haram. The honeymoon activities bring many evils, such as removing the veil, wearing the clothes of the infidels, witnessing the deeds and traditions of the unethical infidels, and visiting places of entertainment. In the end, the woman returned from her journey with the condition of being affected by these vile morals and leaving the morals of Muslim society. Therefore, such a trip is strictly prohibited. The law is obliged to prevent the perpetrator from doing so. Likewise, the female guardian must prevent (the woman) from traveling."
How about a honeymoon with Umrah together?
In the Fatawa As-Syabakiyyah Al-Islamiyyah it is stated,
“It is permissible for a person to spend the first month of his marriage near the holy house of Allah (umrah) so that he combines the goodness of this world and the hereafter. In addition, he gets the delicacy of religion and the world. Things like this are also a great opportunity to be grateful for the blessings of Allah Ta'ala for the wedding favors bestowed upon him. The pleasure of marriage is a sign of God's greatness and is a blessing for His servants.
However, what a husband must pay attention to is that his worship should not be disturbed from fulfilling his wife's rights. Especially in the early days of their marriage. Not to mention his wife's right to him in bed, to have sex with him, and to chat with him. The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam once said,
فَإِنَّ لِجَسَدِكَ عَلَيْكَ حَقًّا, وَإِنَّ لِعَيْنِكَ عَلَيْكَ حَقًّا, وَإِنَّ لِزَوْجِكَ عَلَيْكَ حَقًّا
"Indeed, your body has a right over you, your eyes have a right over you, and your wife has a right over you" (Narrated by Al-Bukhari no. 5199, Muslim no. 1159).
The wife also should not be disturbed because of her worship from serving her husband while still paying attention that the prohibition of ihram must be avoided before tahallul (among which is having sex with husband and wife).
There is very beautiful advice from Sheikh Uthaymeen Rahimahullah regarding this matter. He said in Syarhul Mumti ' , "What is the law of a person who says,' My wife and I go on umrah (for the honeymoon)? '
We think that this contains both good and bad things. It seems that the origins of the honeymoon are taken from non-Muslims. We did not know this at the time of the previous scholars and in the time of the predecessors. The scholars did not even talk about it. Thus, it is (could be) taken from non-Muslims. This is a one-sided point of view.
From another point of view, I am worried that in the long term people will use marriage as an excuse to perform Umrah. If so, over time it will be said, 'it is sunnah for every married person to perform Umrah!' So that we have made excuses that are not in accordance with the Shari'a to worship. This is a problem. After a long period of time, things will often change and people will forget the original reason for doing an action.
Therefore, we say, make the honeymoon in your room, in your home, and make the sweetness of this honey forever, not just a month. I praise Allah the Exalted for the blessings of health that have been bestowed upon me.”
Wallahu a'lam bisshawaab .
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