Backbiting or gossiping about other people, spreading their disgrace with the aim of bringing down honor is a bad character that must be avoided. Not only in the real world but also on social media, many people are trapped in backbiting. Below are beautiful messages from pious salafus regarding backbiting, so that we can avoid this dangerous disease.
Sufyan bin Uyainah rahimahullah said: "Ghibah is heavier than debt because debt can be paid while ghibah cannot be paid." ( Hilyatul Auliya 7/25).
Fudhail bin Iyadh rahimahullah said: "The benefits (rewards) that you get from your enemies are actually more than those that come from your friends. This is because your enemy really likes to keep you alive, so it means that he gives you his goodness all night and day. " ( Majmu 'Rasail , Ibn Rajab, p. 643)
Such is the loss of a person who likes to expose the ugliness of others and be fortunate with the addition of pious deeds and rewards when in ghibahi. There are times when people who like to give seem to be successful in the world, even ghibah seems to have no effect on his life until ghibah has become his habit. However, be aware that the sin of ghibah will reap punishment both in this world and in the hereafter. Ibn Qayyim rahimahullah said: "Do not be deceived if you have not seen the effect of your sin after you have done it, there are times when you will find the effect of the sin after the next 40 years." ( Ad Da 'wa Dawaa ', 130).
The scholars in Ha'iah Kibaril Ulama explained: “Whatever the reason, it is not justified to use social media to spread something that can damage the honor of others (without their rights). Whoever likes to find fault with his brother, Allah will expose his disgrace and ugliness.” (Hai'ah Kibarul Ulama on the official website. https://twitter.com/ss-at/status/1821904598638422616 ).
Rasulullah Shallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam said which means:
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“ O you who believe with his tongue, but faith does not enter his heart, do not gossip about the Muslims and do not seek their shame. Because whoever seeks their shame then Allah will seek his shame and whoever seeks his shame then He will humiliate him (even though he is) in his house. ”(HR. Abu Dawud, 4880, Ahmad 4/420-421, 424).
Thus it is time for us to manage our tongue so that we are always in obedience and take refuge in Allah Ta'ala from slipping of the tongue that can reap sin. And by always remembering Allah Ta'ala surely we will be safe from backbiting.
The key to safe from backbiting
In order to be safe from ghibah, one should be silent and not talk unless it has been weighed and thought through first. Sumaith bin Ajlan radhiallahuanhu said: “O children of Adam! Lo! As long as thou art silent, thou wilt be safe. When you speak then be careful, because the words may be useful to you or harmful to you. " ( Jami'ul Ulum Wal Hikam , 135).
Likewise, it is not easy to be curious about other people's lives without the right purpose, or just wanting to uncover other people's weaknesses let alone spread them in the real world and cyberspace. Even if we accidentally find out about our brother's badness, as long as he is a pious person, we should try to find good excuses for him. Sheikh Abdurrahman bin Nasir As-Sa'di said: “Whoever pretends not to know people's disgrace, withholds his venom to find out about other people's affairs that that person does not like to be seen, then his religion and honor will be safe. Allah will also make His servants cover their disgrace because they are rewarded according to their deeds." ( Al Fawakih As Shahiyyah , p. 112)
We beseech Allah Ta'ala from verbal slippage and be granted a clear heart that is far from hatred with one another, a tongue that is always in obedience and far from ghibah. Wallahu musta'an.
source from muslimah.or.id and Author Isruwanti Umm Nashifa
